Class tells parents to let kids learn from mistakes
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
If you go
What: "Parenting with Love and Logic"
When: 6 to 7:30 p.m. today
Where: Holy Name Catholic Church, 524 Oak St.
Cost: Free
Steamboat Springs — First Impressions of Routt County is sponsoring a free parenting class tonight with a simple message - children learn from making mistakes.
"The real challenge for all the parents is to give children a chance to experience the downside of a bad decision," First Impressions board member Karen Massey said.
"You want them to make mistakes, problem solve through it and then learn from those mistakes," she said. "The idea is (that when) you do it long enough, when they get older they have the responsibility and presence to make good choices."
"The Parenting with Love and Logic" lecture, facilitated by Colorado Mountain College instructor Susan Good, is a departure from the traditional method of parenting through strict discipline and a watchful eye.
"First of all, the beauty of it is that it restructures the way you communicate with your child," said Massey, who noted the method allows children to learn responsibility before the price of mistakes become too costly.
"It really is a strategy of parenting that works from preschoolers up to teenagers," she said. "At the preschool age, they really don't have negative consequences. As kids get older, those consequences have bigger price tags. Teach them to deal with making decisions so when price tags get higher they have built into them a system of making decisions and problem solving."
First Impressions Director Stephanie Howle said an example of the method is teaching the importance of eating breakfast to youngsters without force-feeding them food before school.
"So you tell your child what their choices are," she said. "You tell them they can sit down with their family and eat or they can go to school hungry. It's really about how to handle the everyday things."
Howle said the lecture is the first of many planned talks in a "Parenting and Pizza" educational series that offers free food and childcare to families.
"We must have touched on a nerve because all of the childcare is full," said Howle, who noted more than 90 parents and childcare professionals have called to reserve a spot. "We still want people to come, and we will have food, but we can no longer provide childcare."
She said future lecture topics have not been determined and that all suggestions are welcome.
"We just want people to know the resources that are available to parents in Routt County," Howle said.
For more information on the "Parenting and Pizza" educational series, call First Impressions at 870-5270.
Comments
id04sp 5 years, 8 months ago
I've never seen so much b!+c#y psycho-babble in my entire life.
This is like listening to people try to deal with a drought by arguing over which band to hire for the rain dance.
elkwatch 5 years, 8 months ago
Psent - I'm so embarrassed for you. You're abusing this blog in the worst way.
Matthew Stoddard 5 years, 8 months ago
No, elkwatch- PS is only showing everyone how stand-up those who dislike this particular BOE are. They are tied to the past, just as Democrats still cling to Florida 2000. Some people just don't want to move forward. Let PS keep posting about the past as the rest of us move on.
Sunspot 5 years, 8 months ago
PS Your obsession with Dr D leads me to believe that you have a secret crush on him. Your endless nasty comments about him are your weird way of getting his attention. This article had nothing to do with Dr D. Please seek help.
Matthew Stoddard 5 years, 8 months ago
PS- you don't actually read what you write, do you. You say you have a doctorate; I now challenge you to prove it. (he says, knowing it'll never happen) Nobody with a doctorate can be this stupid; moreso than writing embarrassing emails on a work computer. YOU were the one that directed this thread to the current BOE, Dr. D and Connelly specifically, with your first 3 lines of the original post on this thread; not the article. You twisted the article before anyone else had posted anything.
Nobody is proving you right on anything. In fact, you continually prove yourself wrong to all involve. I hope you aren't a parent and showing your kids this thread as any type of example of anything. The only thing proved here is that you're an idiot, plain and simple. No sense wasting any more time with you. At least sbvor is entertaining.
Sunspot 5 years, 8 months ago
ATTENTION: SOS and Old Board
Instead of pouring money into the recall takeover campaign, you should tend to your fallen comrades. They sacrificed their sanity for your cause. Now they need help. Please pour some of your endless money into therapy for these poor souls.
elkwatch 5 years, 8 months ago
Pilot staff: you've got a nut abusing your site and ruining the comment pages. I suggest you get rid of her. Psent/reallocal: but we do know who you are. Steamboat Joe: where are you? Don't you have any reserves left in that SOS fund? I agree with sunspot - a fallen comrade needs help.
id04sp 5 years, 8 months ago
Kielbasa,
A Doctorate in education is like a doctorate in theology. All you have to do is complete the required classes and write a really nifty book report that satisfies the members of your committee. In scientific disciplines from accredited institutions, you have to actually do a dissertation that adds new knowlege to your field of study.
People with a doctorate can be, and quite often are, stupid. Ask a few of them how to compute compound interest, for example . . . without looking it up in a table or running a "tool" on a realtor's website.
As for the idea of letting kids fail and then work their way out of the jam, I've been there, done that, and got the dadgum t-shirt. Some kids will give a half-fast (G) effort, fail, and then declare themselves to be victims of their emotions or their intellect, and would not do anything to get out of the mess if the parents didn't drag them through it.
Failure can be a way to seek attention. We see it in adults as well as children. The carrot-and-stick method doesn't always work. Some people have a sort of intellectual Munchausen's Syndrome where going down the drain and dragging everyone and everything with them seems to be just fine.
The proposed "method" from this article only works with kids who are motivated and goal-seeking. Don't try it with kids who are not that way.
Sunspot 5 years, 8 months ago
PS - Didn't your parents teach you or do you have parents that taught you right from wrong? You consistently display behavior of someone that has unresolved issues. Were you abused, neglected, traumatized or simply ignored most of your life? Were you not the popular one in school? Are you feeling inadequate?
First step is for you to admit you have a problem/take ownership. Secondly, I would recommend that You should take an inventory of yourself and find some other positive defense mechanisms. It appears you have a long history of using the postings to personally attack other people. You should evaluate that! Again, I can't stress enough that you must take an inventory of yourself. Otherwise, you will find later in life, that you are not only tarnishing your own image but the image of the organization you may represent. This behavior is not becoming as an adult and or so called professional. The tone of your e-mails doesn't represent that of a team player or an adult with a mature approach. Your lack of insensitivity shows who and what you are. You might want to explore the rest of the world outside of Steamboat. You can't possibly be a well-traveled person. You are no renaissance person by far.
You have a long history of personally attacking people online. I hope that you set time aside for a "think tank." You need to re-evaluate your actions and figure out the cause and effect. I feel sorry for you! You poor little child!
Again SOS, one of your fallen comrades has sacrificed her sanity for your cause, Please help.
mom 5 years, 8 months ago
unreal...is this PS a bored loser killing time as a joke or is this an actual person that has lost it
bikegirl 5 years, 8 months ago
Gee-Where is good ole radarascal,or cyborgdreams,or matthew7_1_5?Talk about abusing this site!
bikegirl 5 years, 8 months ago
principally sent-I agree with you.I have attended many of these workshops as both a parent and an educator,they are also available as audio and video programs.
Sunspot 5 years, 8 months ago
PS The only reason you got on here in the first place was to trash Denise and Dr. D. Scroll up and read your first post. You have been using these blogs to carry on your weird obsession with Dr. D. You get on these blogs, say something meaningless about the article, then trash the Board or Dr. D or Denise. If it's a slow day, you attack other bloggers just to pick a fight. They fire back at you giving you the opportunity to throw in some more trashy postings.
Kielbasa pointed out that you don't read your own postings. I was not reading them either, but when I did I realized that you have a serious problem. You don't have to take my word for it just read your most recent 38 postings.
elkwatch 5 years, 8 months ago
ido4sp - psycho-babble at its worst, yes. I'd be willing to bet that Psent/reallocal is taking Psych 101 in her first year of college. I think you may have misread Sunspot's comment from yesterday - He/she was quoting Psent, repeating all the weird things she's said in her repetitive past posts (as I did once- lots of material) The lack of quotation marks was confusing until you read a little further. Psent/reallocal - try to enjoy college and leave your Steamboat obsessions behind. It's painful to watch.
Matthew Stoddard 5 years, 8 months ago
Mike- I'm so sorry that someone very inept has used your wonderful story to further an agenda that has nothing to do with you or your story. This person has used you to conduct some odd experiment in totally disregarding the intent of your story with pure, political drivel, posing as a "doctor," or at least someone who attested to reciting the Hippocratic Oath, in order to impress people anonymously, and laugh because this person doesn't have to be held accountable for his/her words since he/she can hide behind that same anonymity. Kudos to Mike for putting his name to his story and standing tall.
id04sp 5 years, 8 months ago
elkwatch,
I didn't read much of either one in detail.
I looked a little futher into the material. It seems to be targeted at kids raised by permissive parents who now have kids of their own. The program recommends starting at 8 - 9 months of age.
I'll bet it works great right up to the point where little Orson and Zelda put your shoe trees in the garbage disposal and flick on the switch . . . I want to see the explanation for why THAT's a bad idea.
Matthew Stoddard 5 years, 8 months ago
ID- Zelda??? Put down the Wii controller and pick up Halo 3 like the rest of us!!!
twostroketerror 5 years, 8 months ago
We got rid of a swift kick in the rear (corporal punishment) so as to develop a 'meaningful dialog' with our 'everyones a winner!' kids. Has this benefited our society in any way? Alas, it seems not. If the above comments are any indication, spanking should be used liberally on some of the 'adults' in this forum.
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